Cuffing season, ghosting, “u up?” texts… girl, bye! Honestly, why does dating have to be so hard? Spoiler alert: it doesn’t. It’s time to swipe right on the dating life you deserve.
When it comes to dating (slash life), we often get in our own way of experiencing happiness. Confidence comes from within, so it's time to take a hard look in the mirror, smile at your beautiful self, and start the inner work to nurture the most important relationship you'll ever have: the one you have with yourself.
Do you know what you really, actually want out of a relationship? Have you ever given yourself permission to be honest (with yourself and a potential or existing partner) about your needs? Are you nervous about coming across as clingy, needy, or desperate? Spoiler alert: you are none of these things and you deserve to find exactly the right partner(s) for you.
Let's take a look at how you're dating. Where are you meeting people? In what ways are you limiting yourself? Are you shy? Outgoing? Into dating apps? TOTALLY against them? What is working for you right now and what isn't? Let's innovate on your "strategy" so you can navigate dating like the boss you are.
Rejection is par for the course. It is an inevitable and intimidating part of the dating experience - both for you and the people you date. While uncomfortable, rejection is also how you grow, learn, and move onto the NEXT! Embracing rejection is key to a healthy, thriving dating life. This lesson gives you concrete tools to turn people down kindly and accept when others do the same.
Learn how to overcome dating fatigue (yes, it can be tiring!) and bring your best self to the table throughout your journey. The insights from this lesson are applicable in so many other areas of your life as well!
Shula Melamed, MA, MPH is a Relationship Coach who works with individuals, couples and groups looking to identify and address challenges in their intimate lives head-on, exploring issues related to self-worth, communication, sexuality, and pleasure. Her approach is informed by theories and practices of psychology, sociology, and anthropology.
Shula holds an M.A. in Psychology from the New School University and an M.P.H. in Sexuality and Health from Columbia University where she did research on women who take pole dance fitness classes and the role of pleasure in sexual health interventions. Before she started her practice she worked as an assistant to an upscale matchmaker, a social skills coach and as a dancing anthropologist for an NIH funded research program.
She is based in New York City but sees clients virtually both nationally and internationally.